Kindness Breeds More Kindness, Study Shows from University of California, San Diego, and medical sociologist Nicholas Christakis of Harvard University.
Almost Any Types of Acts of Kindness Boost Happiness ~ psychology today
Kindness slows aging.
Research show that Acts kindness can produce oxytocin, reduces levels of free radicals and inflammation in the cardiovascular system and thus slows aging at its source ~ American Journal of Physiology
Study form University of Washington can predict with up to 94 percent certainty whether couples—straight or gay, rich or poor, childless or not—will be broken up, stay together
” If you want to have a stable, healthy relationship, exercise kindness early and often.
When people think about practicing kindness, they often think about small acts of generosity, like buying each other little gifts or giving one another back rubs every now and then. While those are great examples of generosity, kindness can also be built into the very backbone of a relationship through the way partners interact with each other on a day-to-day basis, whether or not there are back rubs and chocolates involved.” “The Love Lab” John Gottman Robert Levenson / University of Washington
We believe that we should work to be happy, but could that be backwards? In this fast-moving and entertaining talk, psychologist Shawn Achor argues that actually happiness inspires productivity.
At 11:50m in he talk about Random acts of Kindness email a day you can create ripple of positivity and create a real revolution.
TEDxCambridge, Michael Norton shares fascinating research on how money can, indeed buy happiness — when you don’t spend it on yourself. Listen for surprising data on the many ways pro-social spending can benefit you, your work, and (of course) other people.
Mary Gordon discusses the research showing that Roots of Empathy reduces aggression, boosts emotional literacy, and creates more caring children.
Helping other increased self-esteem and happiness
Researchers at Toronto’s York University have discovered: being nice and practicing good deeds can boot your self-esteem, increase your happiness and change your life. 700 participants took part in the study and stated that it had changed their lives for the better. “After six months, more than half continued with the exercise because they felt good doing it.”
York University professor Myriam Mongrain syas, “Her research (project hopecanada.com) is finding karma may be worth more than cash. What’s amazing is that the time investment required for these changes to occur is so small.” She notes in her conclusions, “We’re talking about mere minutes a day.”
Mongrain says, that by being kind to others, we learn to be kind to ourselves. “Empathy needs to be practised,” she adds.
Now that is something we can all need practice more of – empathy to ourselves and others.
“doing noble, charitable acts makes us feel better about ourselves. We reaffirm that we are ‘good’, which is a highly valued trait in our society. It is also possible that being kind to others may help us be kind to ourselves,” Mongrain says. She notes that previous studies have demonstrated a causal relationship between compassionate behaviours and charitable self-evaluations.
“Compassion cuts both ways,” she says. “If you make a conscious decision to not be so hard on others, it becomes easier to not be so hard on yourself. Furthermore, providing support to others often means that we will get support back. That is why caring for and helping others may be the best possible thing we can do for ourselves. On a less selfish level, there is something intrinsically satisfying about helping others and witnessing their gratitude,” says Mongrain.
“Participants’ levels of depression, happiness and self-esteem were assessed at the study’s onset, and at four subsequent points over the following six months; those in the compassionate condition reported significantly greater increases in self-esteem and happiness at six months compared to those in the control group.” Via: Is there scientific proof for karma? / York University
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“Over the last decade, neuroscientists have identified a 10-section “empathy circuit” in our brains which, if damaged, can curtail our ability to understand what other people are feeling. Evolutionary biologists like Frans de Waal have shown that we are social animals who have naturally evolved to care for each other, just like our primate cousins. And psychologists have revealed that we are primed for empathy by strong attachment relationships in the first two years of life.But empathy doesn’t stop developing in childhood. We can nurture its growth throughout our lives—and we can use it as a radical force for social transformation. Research in sociology, psychology, history—and my own studies of empathic personalities over the past 10 years—reveals how we can make empathy an attitude and a part of our daily lives, and thus improve the lives of everyone around us. Here are the Six Habits of Highly Empathic People!” Greater Good Science Center. University of California, Berkeley
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